Shame can be a debilitating, paralyzing experience for you, it can feel absolutely crushing. What ever happened that caused your shame may well have long past, physical wounds heal, however the shame you are left with can be haunting and have you reliving your past over and over again. The effort of continuing to hide or cover up the shame is very draining, and the strain of feeling like you have been silenced is stifling.
You create layers to cover and keep hidden areas of yourself you sit in judgment of. You may feel happy to let others see parts of you, however there are other areas that you keep tightly hidden, and will guard them with all the strength you have left. When ever you cover parts of yourself, you suffer.
This feeling can spiral out of control where you keep finding more and more ways to hide the shame you feel, which in the process creates more shame about the shame. This cycle of feeling more and more guilty, and then judging this more and more keeps you in this downward spiral of hiding and covering up thicker and thicker layers of shame. The thought of living a free and authentic life can seem a million miles away from your current nightmare.
Shame is a form of suffering that comes from judgments of yourself and others. And judgments are the opposite of Love. From judgment you experience all of the sorrows of the world, pain and suffering. From Love you experience Peace.
Shame can be hard to recognize at first because many people live with minor or major symptoms of shame and put it down to feeling 'run down' or 'old age' for years without ever really knowing what the cause is.
There is a long list of symptoms that can relate to a shame. Do you experience any of these?
- Feel the need to ‘hide’ parts of you from others
- Feel you cant fully express yourself
- Judge yourself
- Critical of others
- Keep very busy
- Avoid silence
- Avoid being alone
- Fatigue
- Weighed down
- Brain Fog, Memory Problems & Difficulty Concentrating
- Stress
- Anxiety
- Depression
- Overworking
- Making jokes about everything
- Cynicism
- Anger
- Blame
- Not taking responsibility
- Not wanting to admit that you feel shame
Shame is what holds you in the belief that you are so ‘bad’ that you can’t bear to see yourselves as you really are, and you will hide from others so that they don’t find out really how ‘bad’ you are.
You may even project criticism onto others in an effort to escape your shame being seen or found out. This can start to feel very complicated, and may feel to you like a thick ‘fog’, or a heavy ‘cloud’ that hangs over you weighing you down. This fog or cloud then colors everything you see.
One of the greatest paradoxes of your physical sense is that your eyes actually show you what you believe, not what you see. If you believe you are ‘bad’ then you ‘see’ everything that would confirm this to you. Which of course confirms how bad you feel about yourself and on it goes, another layer of shame. Is it little wonder that you can end up feeling buried under a mountain of shame?
Given shame is generated from judgment, it makes sense that it is an environment free of judgment and filled with love that allows you to forgive what ever is there to forgive. Your Life and Soul Coach Carol Goddard does exactly that, she creates the environment where it is safe for you to dissolve shame and bring love, light and healing to all that it was shielding. You will feel light, joy and love again and have that sparkle back in your eyes. You will have the peace and freedom to be YOU and express who you are. You will no longer have anything to hide.
2. Carol will assist you to experience more light in your life, where the dark cloud of shame is replaced by light
3. You will learn ways to identify shame and move through it yourself.
Here is the experience of one of Carol’s clients, who has phone sessions and has given permission to share this:
“I was tentative to share with Carol what had come up, as shame, guilt for even having the thought came rushing forward to safe guard me, yet I could not, not share what was coming up. With Carol’s guidance she moved me from a place of fear to a place of love, and I embraced both the thought and the feeling and moved into the core of what was happening. I gaining access to the knowledge I needed to complete something. As the session continued there was a sense of safety and unconditional support, allowing me to go deeper into myself and open up my own abilities to perceive within….. Again with Carol genuine invitation to voice these feelings from a place of light and love, I was able to transform more shame that was held within and go deeper to the core where the gift of the unconscious offered up the voice …. At this moment, I could feel my body tighten, with Carol’s persistence of holding unconditional space I was able to release and surrender and allow guidance to bring me back to my core. It is here in my core where I found this in creditable source of light, love and Joy and a new level of awareness was expressed with a delight-filled giggle. She allowed me to organically explore this core and reflected to her what I was experiencing. When thoughts would move me from this core, with gentle inquires or reflective statements I could move back to my core. Through my willingness to move from fear to love, accompanied with Carol’s master- filled intention of holding unconditional love filled space and providing intuitive guidance, I have been able to feel more of myself , to re-gain a sense of Joy in the process of being a Woman, and have begun the next leg of my own personal journey of transformation. I am excited to continue to work with Carol’s guidance as I allow myself to deepen my relationship to “the one who knows” held within.”
Jill Stevenson from Yungaburra, QLD, Australia
